A missing child is the existential nightmare of parenthood. This account from Afghanistan to America is a staggering story of a parent’s relentless audacity of hope.

May 4, 2022 by Fr. Gordon MacRae

In October, 2021, I wrote a post entitled “Left in Afghanistan: Taliban, al Qaeda, ISIS-K, Credibility.” It was critical of the poorly planned and chaotic American withdrawal from Afghanistan that diminished the U.S. President and America’s reputation in foreign policy. My post highlighted, among other truths, the $80 billion in U.S. military weapons left behind to be exploited by the Taliban. But that was not all that was left behind.

The Wall Street Journal recently published a heart wrenching story by Jessica Donati entitled “A Dad Hunts for His Lost Boy in Kabul,” (April 16, 2022). It’s a well written account of a little known incident that took place during the catastrophic U.S. withdrawal from Afghanistan in August, 2021. An Afghan man, identified only as “Mohammad” to protect his family, was among a vast crowd trying to leave the Kabul airport that day. Just two days before, an ISIS-K bomb exploded at the airport killing 170 Afghans and 13 U.S. soldiers. Both the Marines and the Taliban waiting for them to leave were on high alert. On the day the bomb exploded, Mohammad’s wife gave birth by emergency cesarean section. She was in no condition to travel, but travel they must. Days earlier, Taliban fighters showed up at Mohammad’s house looking for an American. Then the U.S. State Department advised all Americans to leave Kabul. Mohammed, who was trained in psychology and addictions treatment, had served as an advisor to the U.S. Marines in Afghanistan. He also held dual American citizenship.

He also knew that his family would be in danger if they remained so they were among a mob desperately trying to board a last chance American transport plane. At the Kabul airport, they were cleared by soldiers to pass through a gate to board the plane. Mohammad carried a few hastily packed necessities and the newborn baby while escorting his ailing wife, Bibi, who took the hand of their eight year-old son, James.

The Taliban were watching close by. Pressed by a crushing and panicked mob, the family was pushed through the gate to board the plane. In the chaos, their son became separated from Bibi and forced back into the crowd. Once the parents realized he was missing, they could see no sign of him in the mob on the other side of the fence. Mohammad tried to go back, but soldiers barred him saying that he would not be able to return.

With his wife on the verge of collapse and still holding his newborn infant, Mohammed was faced with a crushing spontaneous choice. Does he abandon his wife and newborn to save his son? He had to get his wife and infant aboard that plane first. There were no seats on the crowded transport and most people were standing, but someone on the packed floor of the plane gave up a space for Bibi who then collapsed.

Placing the infant with her on the floor, Mohammad again tried to go search for James. Outside the plane, panicked mobs were barring his exit as they tried to force their way aboard. We all saw footage of fleeing Afghans trying to cling to the outside of that plane. As it prepared for takeoff, Mohammad could only pray in despair for the safety of his son.

Few of us reading this can fully comprehend the existential state of anxiety such an event would produce in any parent.

A Parallax View

Mohammad tried to phone James from inside the plane on the tarmac, but because of the bombing two days before, soldiers were on high alert. They threatened to smash his phone if he tried to use it again. None of the fleeing passengers even knew where the plane would later land. Then the WSJ account switched to a parallax view, a view of the same event from another perspective: that of eight year-old James.

Being small, the crush of the crowd forced James from his mother’s hand while pushing him ever more deeply into the frantic mob. When he realized he had lost his family, he sat on a curb and cried under the weight of his own despair. He was holding only a small plastic bag with his passport and a cell phone. As he heard the plane’s engines, he became one of an unknown number of children separated from parents and left behind stranded and alone in Afghanistan.

The WSJ article points out that the State Department was overwhelmed by the flood of refugees seeking admission to the United States. In addition to those from Afghanistan, the ongoing refugee crisis was also impacted by daily chaos at the U.S. Southern Border. President Biden has since pledged to also accept 100,000 refugees fleeing Ukraine, a story I wrote of in “Beyond Ukraine: The Battleground Against Tyranny Is Us.”

Back to eight year-old James: Another Afghan man at the scene with his nephew was unable to get his own family onto that plane. He saw James on the ground crying and knew he had become separated. He also knew that the Taliban would only exploit him. So he, too, was forced into a spontaneous decision. He took James with him and his nephew in search of safety.

The courageous stranger (unnamed for his own safety) later told The Wall Street Journal, “I found a little boy crying in a corner. I couldn’t just leave him there.” He brought James to his home in Kabul while his nephew tried to call a number programmed on James’ phone. Aboard the plane in flight, Mohammad’s phone was receiving no signal.

Only in flight did the passengers learn that they were bound for a U.S. air base in Bahrain on the western side of the Persian Gulf. Upon landing, Mohammad charged his phone, but he and others learned that their SIM cards would not work outside of Afghanistan. The base was crowded with thousands of Afghan refugees. Mohammad tried in vain to get someone to try to contact his son. Soldiers wrote his name and description down. Three days later, Mohammad and his wife and baby were placed aboard another plane bound for a military base in Wisconsin.

In Wisconsin, Mohammad heard accounts out of Kabul that some of the Taliban were searching for lost children with American ties so they could hold them under torture for ransom. He feared revealing to contacts in Kabul that his son was alone and stranded there. He finally reached Bibi’s sister in Northern Afghanistan but no one knew the whereabouts of her brother, Sayed, the one person who Mohammad knew would go to any lengths to find James.

Mohammad tried in vain to arrange his own return to Kabul to find his son, but ran into the same roadblock as in Kabul. If he went back there he would not be allowed to return. Finally, on his second day in Wisconsin, he was able to get a Wi-Fi signal and learned that his son had been rescued by a stranger in Kabul. A full week had passed when, to his great relief, there were multiple messages on Mohammad’s newly accessed phone from James and the stranger who rescued him.

He called right away and tearfully heard his son’s voice. There are 1,500 Afghan children who arrived in the U.S. on refugee flights without their parents. To date, only about 60 have been reunited with family members. Most remain in U.S. Government custody. But the problem with James was the opposite. There seemed to be no protocol for bringing a minor child from Taliban-controlled Afghanistan to reunite him with parents in the United States.

Task Force Argo

Mohammed learned from another evacuee at the Wisconsin base that a volunteer group of American veterans and former government employees known as Task Force Argo was working to charter evacuation flights out of the city of Mazar-e-Sharif in Afghanistan.

Meanwhile, Mohammad kept trying to reach his brother-in-law, Sayed, who had been studying in Kabul. When the city fell, Sayed relocated to a remote region with no phone reception. He worried about his family in Kabul so a friend climbed with Sayed to a remote mountaintop to try to get a signal. When he connected, he saw multiple urgent messages from his sister, Bibi. By chance, his phone rang just then. It was Bibi.

When Sayed learned what happened, he vowed to return to Kabul to search for James. While there, he messaged Mohammad for the name and location of the stranger who rescued him. Sayed then learned of the hope that Task Force Argo might help. In Kabul, he and his traumatized nephew had a tearful reunion. Then they boarded a bus bound for Mazar-e-Sharif. Jesse Jensen, a co-founder of Task Force Argo, told The Wall Street Journal:

“America needs to step back up to the plate and demonstrate that we don’t abandon allies or children of American citizens. If the U.S. government won’t do this, we will.”

The day after Sayed retrieved his nephew, the stranger who had rescued him in Kabul was visited by Taliban fighters looking for the son of an American. They searched the house, but found nothing. The man then took his own family and hastily left Kabul.

Task Force Argo arranged to get Sayed and James aboard a flight from Mazar-e-Sharif to United Arab Emirates where they were relocated to a secure compound of 9,000 Afghan refugees called “Emirates Humanitarian City.” The U.S. Embassy there has an office for interviews, but progress in vetting the stranded — many of whom were allies who assisted the American effort in Afghanistan — is very slow.

The story, for now, ends with Sayed and James safe but now stranded in the United Arab Emirates. It was not the fault of eight year-old James or his parents that the process for evacuating them from Kabul was so poorly planned and chaotic. Eight months after that day, the U.S. State Department could easily fix this, but hasn’t. I hope the attention to this by The Wall Street Journal, coupled with the heroic efforts of Sayed and Task Force Argo, might bring a happy ending to this horrific but still hopeful account.

Under current White House policy, the only other option might be for Sayed to somehow get James into Mexico and the Southern Border where they could simply wade across the Rio Grande into the United States with little in the way of obstacles.

Please pray for James and his family.

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Note from Fr. Gordon MacRae: Thank you for reading and sharing this story on social media. You may also like these related posts from Beyond These Stone Walls:

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